Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Jealousy

Jealousy is unhealthy. It plaques the mind and heart and robs you from good self esteem. It makes us expect our own flaws to be disastrous and ugly and makes us think it's something that we can't cover up. We've all had some innocent jealousy in our lives. However, mine was pretty intense. My friend Sarah is just the brightest gem in the jewelry box. She is a beautiful model with brains (serious brains) and she has this AMAZING singing voice. I wanted every single thing Sarah had. Thankfully, my insane jealousy didn't get the best of our friendship. I just kept my feelings to myself, but inside I was seething. Surprisingly, I envied Sarah for about four years. Fourth grade to eighth grade.Pretty ridiculous?

Well, I told her recently that she was smart and beautiful and that I use to envy her greatly. My friend couldn't believe such a thing. She laughed and said, "Really? What is there to be jealous about?" I've been jealous of others a few times after that, but they didn't last as long. I usually envy people with brains. The top students and the AP genius kids. I just feel that intelligence is so vital, that I push myself to make a's, then that stupid "b" in math would appear from nowhere. From what I've learned, you must look at your own gifts and cherish them. Offer them to other people and dance with joy saying, "Hey, I am great!"

Cheer quote of the day:"Cheerleaders are the leaders of the team. We provide confidence and pep talks with our cheers."

14 comments:

Nicole Linette said...

That's good insight.

I was the same way with one of my friends, she was gorgeous and everyone just wanted to be her friend. But then I realized, everyone has their flaws too, we're only human. So I worked on my self-confidence and practiced what I did best ... and I've gotten this far!

peace&♥
nicole.

Skippy said...

It's extreamly hard not to feel jealousy. But working on self confidence will proably make a lot of that go away. And it's epsically hard to feel envy over someone when they don't even see their beauty, singing voice, or money. My best friend is really pretty, and I don't think she see's it at all.

awesome post

i'm more like me said...

im jealous of ur motivation in school, if i were only as motivated as u i wonder what i could do, i usualy just float through(bcuz in everything but english im wicked smart) and dont try unless im gonna loose my A, this year there is no way ill have straight A's, stupid english 11 ap... ick writing about things u dont really care about..., the worst thing is faking interest in something, bcuz if u have no oppinion on something then ur supposed 2 make one up, but what if u choose that u dont care, then u get a f, its lieing, i dont believe what i have 2 write and thusly shouldnt b writing it...

i'm more like me said...

as 4 my normal jealousy, i just usualy get jealous of ppl who know what they want, honestly i cant make decisions, cant shop, cant decide what i wanna say, cant choose left turn or right, i just dont do it

Katrina :) said...

I've been working on Jealously. I get jealous with my brother SOMETIMES. I don't get EXTREMLY Jelous a lot. So I guess that's good.

My brother on the other hand...yeah. He got jelous when my dad got me and amp (for my guitar) and he didn't, and we tried explaining to him he had an Amp, better guitar, guitar lessons, and his other electric guitar got fixed, while mine is collecting dust in my closet because it CAN'T be fixed. My dad had also bought him an amp and I have had no amp all YEAR. so he has issues...he is clearly jelous of my amazing singing voice and writing skills (he so wishes he had these talents) (that was scarsim)

Trina

Tatiana said...

I have been jealous of intelligent people too, for instance when I´m in school trying so hard to get good grades and I see this girls that have good grades without even study as hard as me. When I feel jealous about someone I try to think in the things I have that this other person dosen't, and that make me feel better. But I know that jealousy is really really bad, I try to avoid it as hard as I can...But well I don't always can avoid it:S
XOXO
Tatis

Triss Teh said...

Pride is simply jealousy of oneself.

anaaaaaaishh :D said...

i don.t really have that many issues with jealousy.....buut i.m glad you wrote that post. keep writing.:)

arychtexas said...

good post are extremely deep for your age...

I usually envy people with brains. The top students and the AP genius kids. I just feel that intelligence is so vital, that I push myself to make a's, then that stupid "b" in math would appear from nowhere.

<<< wow man when i was in high i didnt even think about "A's" i just thought about getting by! Now i envy everybody with a degree of some sort. In the military i try to be the best b/c in high i wasnt the best in anything. In my current occupation im viewed as one of the elite. That feeling is unexplainable knowing you are the best!

Anonymous said...

i am only jealous of my little sister because she gets more attention and stuff from my parents. but i saw this and maybe my parents love me, my brother, and my sister equally. fsh!!
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Anonymous said...

you are right!! Jealousy is definitly NOT a good thing!!! I really like that post, cause I can relate to it a lot, I have felt that way a lot....


Krosemarie

Smara said...

Jealousy sucks. End of story. I've been experiencing it a lot this year. But I'm learning to be happy with who I am and not care so much about the other things... I can only improve who I am not change who I am. And we shouldn't have to change.

Jordyn said...

TOTAL. i have to admit, im a verry jealous person, but at the same time, i have no cluee why... i mean, for example sianne said she was jealous of me, but im jealous of her, i think we need to learn to just love ourselves.

Sianne I Am said...

Thanks Rose, I toally needed that! I am a REAL jealous person. Like, I get really jealous of Jordyn and at the same time, she is jealous of me. But I think that is what makes us such great friends, we complete the other. Then again, I think we need to find it in ourselves to appreciate what we have and love it. (like jor said, except better. hah. jk. love ya jor!)